I aspire to be an ALLY

I really don’t get HOMOPHOBIA!!!

(YES I AM GOING IN – ) Particularly from people in oppressed groups who claim to be christian.

I am an LGBTQQIAAP ally, or at least I aspire to be.

LGBTQQIAAP Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgendered, Queer, Questioning, Intersex, Asexual, Allies and Pansexual.

Lesbian – Women that are only attracted to women.

Gay – Men that are only attracted to men. Gay can also be used to describe homosexual men and women.

Bisexual – A person that is attracted to both sexes.

Transgendered – A person that has/is transitioning to the opposite sex, as they were born as the wrong sex/in the wrong body. (Female to male. Male to female).

Queer – A person that does not want to label themselves as, e.g. Lesbian, so they call themselves queer instead.

Questioning – Someone that is questioning their sexual orientation, unsure which gender/s they are attracted to.

Intersex – A hermaphrodite.

Asexual – A person that isn’t sexually attracted to either gender.

Allies – A straight person that supports the LGBT(QQIAAP) community.

Pansexual – A person that is attracted to a person because of their personality. They do not care what gender they date, they care about what is on the inside.

All of these make up LGBTQQIAAP.

I don’t believe that it is a lifestyle choice, because I didn’t CHOOSE to be Straight.

And as an experiment, I tried to choose to be gay. for just 15 minutes to not have any heterosexual thoughts, to chastise myself if I did. – I didn’t make it 5 minutes before I had given three men the up-down I’m checking you out look and only one was really fine. As a Cis Heterosexual Black Woman – I didn’t choose any of that part of who I am. What I choose, what all people choose, is how we treat others, how we think and speak of others, even when they are not present.

And if you have known the pain of rejection or mistreatment for an arbitrary reason, how the hell can you do that to someone else.

Years ago I dated a man who was not black and met him for drinks and he had bruised knuckles. He had an altercation over a non black racial slur joke told in his presence. The person telling the joke was a mutual acquaintance who was confused because “dude, you are dating a black, this isnt about the blacks.” The man shared that an assault on any group was an assault on all and he wasn’t having any of it.

That is my feeling too. All humans deserve respect