DONT EVEN TRY TO POLICE OR SHAME ME ABOUT WHAT AND HOW TO WEAR…anything.

bey metgala

the uproar of policing over Beyonce’s half naked MetGala gown is cracking me up and making my butt itch

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She is a grown ass married women and professional entertainer.

and even if she wasnt.. –

if she just really likes how her body looks and likes to wear sexy feeling and looking clothes…

bey talk to handSO WHAT

why do we feel the need to

police and shame other women.beyonce no  non finger

what code are we enforcing… who created this code and

who benefits from its enforcement.beyonce sun glasses peep

My favorite absurd and asinine comment had to do with her having to

wear that dress on judgement day

religious mythology aside. God made those titties… She knows what they look like all the time.

She aint scared.bye bye frim bey

what is so scary about a woman who loves her body

OUTSIDE of the solitary male gaze.

who shows off her body for her pleasure…bey metgala 4

has sole agency of her body and sexuality…

like a man…

take a breath… I’ll waitbeyonce happy dance

I am my own person, and I will not set fire to myself to keep you warm. “Before I am your daughter, your sister, your aunt, niece, or cousin, I am my own person, and I will not set fire to myself to keep you warm.” I WILL NOT SET FIRE TO MYSELF TO KEEP YOU WARM.

I am my own person,
and I will not set fire to myself to keep you warm.
“Before I am
your daughter,
your sister,
your aunt,
niece,
or cousin,
I am my own person,
and I will not set fire to myself
to keep you warm.”

fire

I WILL NOT SET FIRE TO MYSELF
TO KEEP YOU WARM.

Haters need to stop

As a black woman whenever someone steps to me with an argument on why I should diminish myself, shrink myself, limit myself. Whenever someone comes to me with the discussion that demands that I settle, compromise or otherwise minimize my vision.
I take a deep, I take a moment, and I ask myself why? What is the motivation of any human being that demands that in order for me to be happy, I must be less than what I am, less than what God made me, express fewer of the gifts that make me unique? What doctrine or dogma,that is truly about living your best life possible,being who you truly are meant to be, improving the human condition, would ever tell you to shrink yourself to limit yourself?
I’m in the process of this inquiry, without fail, I come to realize that the person espousing the limitations of me, is living in constant fear they are not all they’re cracked up to be and in order to feel better about themselves,their gender, their race, they have to attack me my gender, my race.

Sex, Gender and the Golden Rule

I Woke Like Dis!!!
I truly,truly, truly, take exception to men who speak to women on how to be better women! I am not saying that a man cannot tell, show, help a woman to be a better woman at all. I am saying that I sincerely question the motivations intent desire goals of a man who presumes to understand my journey as a woman well enough.
Especially those who hide behind their alleged interpretation/understanding of the biblical or other religious scripture as a basis for telling me how to be a woman.
As one who has been beaten up by men, literally and figuratively, wielding a Bible, as the justification for abusive, domineering, manipulative, controlling behavior, I have found that if they cannot defend, define or otherwise describe their behavior toward me or any other woman within the confines of the golden rule, then it is highly likely, if not absolute, that their position is indefensible.
Are you saying to me, what you would want said to you? Are you saying to me what you believe applies to you? Are you saying to me, are you treating me, the way you would want your mother, wife, daughter, sister treated and if you cannot answer all those questions in the affirmative then you need to shut the fuck up and sit the fuck down

Blood on Your Hands

dont ask me to sing kumbaya with blood on your hands.

dont ask me to call you brother while you are wrapped in your privilege which exploits me.

dont tell me that you dont see color or gender when you live and work in lily white sausage fests enclaves of privilege.

we are not the world when no black people live near you, work near you, shop near you, work for you, study near yo, exercise near you…
I wont sing We are the World until we are both working to make it true. working not waiting…

dont ask me to sing kumbaya when you have my blood on your hands!

Think About That! Respectability Politics! PAY ATTENTION!!!

Part of Respectability Politics intimates that if you, as a black person,
are proper enough,
educated enough,
well dressed enough,
well behaved enough,
you will gain the rights and privileges of full citizenship and humanity.

It’s not that the sales person was a racist ass, or the police officer as prejudices as all fuck, it was that you did look rich enough, weren’t well spoken enough.

At some point we have to admit that the was all a big ass pile if crap.
That the goal of respectability politics is make you white enough.
White enough to be a person.

Think about that.

You have signed on to be like the people who have and are denying that
you are a person in order to prove that
you are a person!

I have often felt that I am expected to be smart, articulate, well dressed, well behaves. A credit to my race.
And if I do those things
well enough,
long enough.

people who care, will forget that

I am black that
my hair is nappy and
that I have a vagina.

I will prove that I have the right to be.
to live to have to earn to learn to know to go WTF

who are these people to whom I have to prove my humanity? who said I wasn’t human?

Think about that.

You have signed on to be like the people who have and are denying that
you are a person in order to prove that
you are a person!Think about that.

You have signed on to be APPROVED OF by the people who have and are denying that
you are a person in order to prove that
you are a person!

Think about that.

You have signed on to be Support, Endorse, Enforce the standards of the people who have and are denying that
you are a person in order to prove that
you are a person!

Think About That!