Someone said to me that it was “a shame that there was no man in my family to avenge my having been battered”. I understand what he meant but it was so distasteful.
As if my value in the world was tied to a family member with a penis being around to avenge and/or protect me. That my father is dead and I have no brothers my aunt’s husband (formerly known as my uncle) a worthless thieving piece of shit, means that a man could feel free to mistreat me without consequence.
My point is that all men need to move past seeing another man’s mother, sister, daughter, aunt, niece in order to see a person.
Every man ought see every woman as a person in her own right.
Failing to do so is evidence of misogyny and patriarchy and toxic masculinity.