I recently saw an article about a young woman who presented HER FATHER with proof of VIRGINITY at her wedding.
I love a fairytale wedding and i love a close father daughter relationship. I had a very close and very intellectual relationship with my father. who would always ask me…”why do you think that is?”
1. a woman was her father’s property and then her husbands
a. taking your husbands names at marriage
b. the question at the wedding ceremony – “who gives this woman to be married?”
2. marriage was a business transaction that the woman had no input in.
3. female virginity insured that a mans first child was his prior to DNA tests
a. the first born son inherited the estate of his father
b. the first born daughter was offered in marriage to increase the family financial and political position.
4. the inequity between the value of female virginity and male virginity
a. slut shaming
b. control of female life choices
c. men who are sexual adventures are REAL MEN
So without speaking to the particulars of this situation. I would never encourage my child, male or female to be a virgin at marriage or to marry a virgin.
I would encourage my child to set her/his personal standards for all things in hie/her life and to live up to them.
4 Myths About Virginity August 30, 2013 by Melissa A. Fabello http://everydayfeminism.com/2013/08/4-myths-about-virginity/
Living Myths About Virginity Vacuums of reliable information and sexism in popular culture can have serious consequences for women’s health. NOLAN FEENEY FEB 7, 2014 http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2014/02/living-myths-about-virginity/283628/
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