on Charleston, white frigility and Forgiveness

what is forgiveness?

why is it the ooftah and white privilege go to in times of racial strife?

why did white slavers work so hard to give the enslaved the whitejesus religion that they dont follow?

there is a popular notion is society that to forgive someone is to hold them harmless and blameless.
this is very different and often confused for the forgiveness that accepts the past and frees the wronged person to live fully.
many christians in my experience think that forgiveness means that you maintain the abusive relationship when you forgive the wrongdoer. that you keep taking their shit.

I wont speak to anyone else only my concept. Because white people in america always want to be let off the hook for the bullshit that they say and do to black people. to never apologize, never change grow become better fuller human being.

I wont USE THE WORD FORGIVE.  because many black people are stuck on stupid and need massa to be happy at their and my expense.
I WONT USE THE WORD FORGIVE. is it my intention to stay in this painful for me and shameful for them moment.
but like I told the abusive exhusband who broke my arm and hand in 5 places – when he told me that we were still married in the eyes of god and jesus didnt allow divorce..
your god must be blind and jesus didnt marry you.
and to a reasonable extent I have forgiven him. not is a stay married and dwell in hell kind of way. in a I accept that the past is the past and cant change it.
i free myself to move on and be happy. I dont keep your secret. i dont stay in relationship with you and i dont pretend that it is all ok.

(take a moment to remember how AMERICA forgave during WWII and after 9/11)

and have a seat

Author: pdeedixon

Woman. Mother. Lawyer. Black. RaceWoman. Womanist. Feminist. LBGTQQPIA ally. divorced

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