what most men don realize is that most women are faking it.
all that demure coy stuff that most men associate with femininity
all that sexy, come and get t stuff that most men associate with female sexuality
we fake it until you like us individually enough to realize that we are a person. and individual, human, more than a member of a gender.
and feminism is about not ever faking it. about most men accepting the equal personhood of women.
and most men and some women reject feminism because they don’t see women as people and they don’t want to stop faking it
and for some people the notion of homosexual and trans identities and relationships is so very scary partly because it reorders their world and life view.
because for them…. it is so hard to see some people as people