I have spent a great deal of my life “dealing with” the white gaze and/or the male gaze.
As a Black Woman it is a part of oppression.
Many Blacks and women police me and my body when whites and men are not present.
One goal of oppression in to internalize itself. In the community and in the individual.
Self policing in the guise of respectability politics and shaming.
The need to be a good negro. Not like THOSE negroes.
A good woman not like those females.
A woman asked me about my being carefree.
My ability to eliminate the
white gaze and the
male gaze as oppressive forces from my life and consciousness make me carefree.