Chipped Nail – versus Amputated Finger

The Problem for me
when other people compare the oppression of
white ethnics in America to that of
Black Americans

Here is an analogy – (hopefully a good one) as a domestic violence survivor – I have issues, triggers, scars and scares.
I appreciate when my pain and struggle is acknowledged.
I resent that my left arm and hand ache, swell and let me know when it is going to rain.
when someone who suffers from a broken arm from skiing compares their experience to mine,
I bristle. Likewise, I can’t in good conscience compare my DV experience to a woman who is deaf in one ear, has ptsd and cant have kids after a trauma induced miscarriage, plus has a broken arm.
and it isn’t really about comparison,
it is about giving reverence and respect to the human experience of another.
when I speak about the African Diasoparic North American Slave experience and someone of another experience offers a comparison –
I dont feel heard and in fact feel dismissed.
partly because that what WHITES in this country have done in the face of all Black demands.
This may not be what you intended, but in my mind, the divisions are not ‘fuzzy’ because I know American History as well as Black American History.
No one has a perfect life –
but dont insult me by comparing your chipped nail to my amputated finger

Author: pdeedixon

Woman. Mother. Lawyer. Black. RaceWoman. Womanist. Feminist. LBGTQQPIA ally. divorced

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