A friends Betrayal.
“It is more shameful to distrust our friends than to be deceived by them.”
I recently learned that a friend told other friends of mine that I was adopted when I had no idea that I was adopted.
I really want you to take a moment to picture this.
Joan told Maureen that she knew that my aunt was, in fact, my biological mother.
Maureen asked how could that be and Joan said older people in her family knew older members of my family.
And no one told me.
It saddens me so. Because I cared for her and trusted her. I have to question her need to control information. It gave her a sense of power and control and for reasons I will never know… she needed that.
It enrages me because she had this information when my biological mother was alive and I could have gotten some answers and closure. She was aware of my biological mother’s illness and impending death.
Arguably, she was not under a duty to tell me what she knew, about me. But, how do you tell others and not tell me? That is some straight up BULLSHIT.
The other thing for me is that both Joan and Maureen hold themselves to be spiritual and religious people.
The Golden Rule applies here, where?
One thing is that I am clear about is that I have been attracted to a great number of liars in my life.
I have been drawn to people who tell you some twisted version of the truth and tell you that they love you and that is over as is my lack of personal boundaries.
When you are raised in a lie… there is familiarity with lies and liars that develops.
And when you survive that lie… well we will see.