on why it is so hard for victims to come forward.
sitting in the ER, a black woman, after the abuser by marriage, a black man, broke five bones in my arm and hand,
the police officer, a black man, called there by the ER doctor a non black woman, told me that he couldn’t take a report because he didn’t have the right form. He changed his mind when I told him I was a former ASA.
My aunt, a black woman, who I have since learned was my birth mother, told me not to say anything that will cause that boy to loose his job.
I am not saying that domestic violence is the same as rape, I am saying that patriarchy knows no gender and crimes related to the personal sanctity of the victims body separate from any males ownership involve intense victim blaming.
” you shouldnt provoke him” is analogous to “what were you wearing”