Warning – I am done with the Ghetto name bullshit. I take exception to harsh and racist critiques of A people stripped of an historical culture are within their rights to rebuild it. If these people are also denied proper education and resources and use imagination and popular culture are a foundation for the rebuilt culture. so be it.
I am about to do a DNA test because I want to know what parts of Africa my people came from. Not because my family ignored its history and heritage but because it was stripped from me like clothing and freedom. my family is 5 generations born free in this country. A 6th generation was born slave and emancipated. thats as far back as I can go.
An East Indian friend (how prejudiced does that sound) has a daughter 2 years older than mine. She regaled me over cocktails, of the horror of teenage girls and prom and the dress and driving and boys and we laughed so had to women moving from mother to crone, laughing and yelling about those sweet maiden daughters. One story made me sad, sick to my stomach. the prom dress augment.
my friend encouraged her daughter to wear a formal sari to graduation. deflected the concern that it looked like a costume. dealt with the sexy factor and crushing comment. I’ll get it out of the way so that I dont have to deal with the traditional wedding later. we howled with laughter as my friend recalled that she told her daughter that she was paying and grown and we will see about the wedding.
I dont get to have that conversation with my daughter. we are ???? our brides wear??? I wore, my mother wore and you will wear???
It pisses me off as much as it breaks my heart. and that is the ‘light’ side of a stolen history, culture.
So much was lost in the MIDDLE PASSAGE